Stepping into the forum today with a challenge that’s proving more complex than I anticipated with my youngest, Nicholas (18 months). He has recently entered a biting phase, and while my six-year-old twins, Alma and Gideon, certainly presented their own unique behavioral puzzles, this is a new one for our family. My observation so far is that the biting isn’t born from malice, but rather seems to be a very physical expression of frustration, overstimulation, or even excitement when his vocabulary falls short.
Of course, I’ve dived into the research and am applying the standard, evidence-based reactive strategies. We’re doing the firm but calm “No biting, biting hurts,” offering empathy for the underlying feeling (“I see you’re frustrated”), and temporarily removing him from the situation to reset. We’re also ensuring he has plenty of appropriate items to chew on since his molars are making an appearance. While this approach helps in the moment, I can’t help but feel I’m missing a piece of the puzzle. My background is in curriculum development, so my mind naturally gravitates toward prevention and environmental design over constant reaction.
I’m hoping to tap into the collective wisdom here for more proactive strategies. Beyond just managing the bite after it happens, what has worked for you all in heading it off at the pass? I’m particularly interested in any communication techniques or environmental adjustments you’ve found successful for pre-verbal toddlers. How do we build a ‘curriculum’ for emotional expression that provides an outlet before the impulse to bite takes over? Any recommended books, specific sign language signs that were particularly effective, or structured activities would be so appreciated. It feels like a very isolating behavior to manage, especially with playdates on the horizon, and I’d be grateful for any insights.